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Tove K's avatar

I'm not gifted enough with statistics to tell whether the pattern you see is relevant or not, but from a personal point of view I spontaneously felt like protesting a bit. As one of those women who are attracted predominantly to boyish men, I wouldn't guess that such an attraction pattern is an expression of closet lesbianism or even something close to that. Because (like most women, I guess) I'm also attracted to women. I have never acted in any way on my admiration for beautiful women and will never do so because I'm a demisexual. Nonetheless, in particular when I was younger I had a very particular taste for women. The girls and women I found attractive were all a bit on the heavier side, that is, not boyish at all. So from my very narrow perspective of introspection, I don't have the impression that attraction to men that are not maximally manly is somewhere on the scale toward attraction to women.

And yes, once upon a time I was electrified by What do Women Want by Daniel Bergner. It is a great introduction to the weirdness of female sexuality. But after having gotten used to the thought it is time to move on.

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David Gretzschel's avatar

I'm growing my hair long and am hitting the gym to get ever more muscular. Therefore.... ALL THE GIRLS LOVE ME!

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